Identifying Domestic Abuse

This article will attempt to illustrate the horror of women and children being subjected to domestic abuse. I've witnessed women being beat on and have played a role in stopping it. I'm working to create an annual Motorcycle Event here in Texas to raise money for this cause and bring abusers out into the light where law enforcement can deal with them properly. Battered Women's Syndrome can be termed to be a form of post-traumatic stress and is recognized as the psychological condition that can be use to describe someone who has been the victim of consistence and severe domestic violence. To be classified as battered women, a woman should fall through the cycles of abuse.

WHAT IS A CYCLE OF ABUSE?

A Cycle of abuse is an abuse that occurs in a loop pattern. Abuse can be identifiable as being cyclical in two ways: Generational and Episodic.


GENERATIONAL
This cycle of abuse are passed down, in pattern from parents to children.


EPISODIC
This cycle of abuse is in a loop pattern within the context of at least two individuals in the family tree. It may involve spousal abuse, child abuse and even elder abuse. A son is repeatedly either verbal or physical, abused by his father and will predictably treat his own children in the same way. When a daughter hears her mother frequently tear down, belittle, and criticize her father, she will adapt a learned behavior, which involves control through verbal abuse. Similarly, a child who witnesses his parents engaging in abusive behaviors toward each another, will very likely subject his or her spouse to the same abusive patterns. These are the exclusive examples of generational abuse. The episodic cycle of abuse has character of distinct periods of behavior that eventually result in an extreme episode of verbal or physical injury. Source Here

Amy's Story

This is a story of just one woman having to deal with an abusive husband. Amy's life could have been saved by the intervention of her community. I cannot believe there were not at least three respectable people in her community who would not step up in her defense. In my neighborhood we haven't had this happen in quite a while and if we as the leaders of our neighborhoods will give of our time and effort to prevent any domestic violence. We've done it before.

Warning Signs of Domestic Abuse

·  Does your partner physically abuse you?

·  Does your partner abuse you emotionally?

·  Does your partner call you abusive names?

·  Do you wear long or baggy clothes to hide bruises?

·  Does your partner monitor your emails?

·  Does your partner monitor your cell phone?

·  Does your partner threaten to hurt you or others close to you?

·  Does your partner force you to have sex?

·  Does your partner force you to perform sex acts you don’t approve of?

·  Do you make excuses for bruises and black eyes?

·  Are you isolated from friends or family?

·  Are your friends and family forbidden to visit you?

·  Is your partner overly jealous?

·  Do you call in sick because of injuries?

·  Does your partner monitor your mileage?

·  Do you make excuses for injuries?

·  Does your partner control who you may talk with?

If your answer is yes to any of these questions you are being abused.

Four Stages of Battered Women’s Syndrome

Stage One Denial

The victim refuses to admit they are being beaten and refuses to admit that it is a problem. They make excuses for their abuser deluding themselves into believing that it will not occur again.

Stage Two Guilt

The victim now accepts the reality of the situation but believes that they are at fault. They believe that they deserve the abuse because of their faults and that they are not “good” enough for their partner.

Stage Three Acknowledgement

The victim comes to realize that they are being abused for no good reason and doesn’t deserve the horror they live in. During this stage they will however continue to stay believing things will change.

Stage Four Victory

The victim comes to realize that their partner will not stop their abuse, and will not take it any longer. They then get the hell out or remove the abuser from their homes. At this point the victim should take advantage of free counseling while they make a new life.

 Donate Now

Battered Women's Shelters are often ignored when it comes to donations. I've heard others say they'd rather not since the abused often goes back to their abusers which is quite contrary to the truth. These women have left their past lives, friends and financial security in some case because they got tired of being beaten

Most of them go to shelters with no more than the clothes on their backs. Their children often in underwear because they had to make a quick getaway. These women need money of course and clothing. Many need basic items to start a new household such as beds, furniture and cooking utensils, i.e. what we all need to live in a house or apartment. There are cell phone providers who will give them free service just in case their abuser finds them and they need to call 911. At our local shelter my girlfriend and I are known, we don't give regular items to obvious charities anymore and we get new cell phones or from time to time or buy some prepaid phones and donate them. No matter where you are a battered women’s Shelter can be found.